Heartfelt Memorial Services https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com YOUR GUIDE FOR PLANNING MEANINGFUL FUNERALS CELEBRATIONS OF LIFE Tue, 11 Oct 2016 16:28:12 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.5 Other Advice on End of Life Topics https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/other-advice-on-end-of-life-topics/ Tue, 11 Oct 2016 16:28:12 +0000 http://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/?p=4094 In this section are lists and articles from us and other professionals.

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“Overruling my father’s intervention request” https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/overruling-my-fathers-intervention-request/ Wed, 27 May 2015 03:40:14 +0000 http://heartfelt.706directory.com/?p=3170 We strongly recommend reading and discussing the full article archived on the NY Times website with your family. http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/04/08/overruling-my-father/?smid=li-share&_r=0 What do you do when last minute opinions are different from those expressed over many years?  At the end of theonline article there is a button that includes the advice and experiences of over 260 professionals in end […]

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We strongly recommend reading and discussing the full article archived on the NY Times website with your family.
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/04/08/overruling-my-father/?smid=li-share&_r=0
What do you do when last minute opinions are different from those expressed over many years?  At the end of theonline article there is a button that includes the advice and experiences of over 260 professionals in end of life care.  These are even more valuable than the article.

…The time had come to clarify what types of interventions my father wanted. I knew what I hoped to hear. Not only did I know his opinions about inappropriate treatment, but he had written some notes when he began to seriously deteriorate. He said that he was “taking steps to ease my passage.” Some with his condition, he added, “have taken drugs.” Regarding his wife — my mother — he wrote that she “doesn’t deserve to struggle with me anymore.”

But when I asked what he wanted, these notions had disappeared. He said he would be willing to go to the hospital if he got sicker and even go on a ventilator. “Sometimes they can really help,” he said.

I tried a different tack. “Are you content,” I asked, “living in a nursing home, being confined to a wheelchair and sleeping most of the time?”

The man who had dreaded ever winding up this way answered, “Yes.”

My father’s change of mind was hardly unprecedented. With the rise of living wills and health care proxies, people now often indicate how they want to limit medical interventions if they reach a state of irreversible infirmity. Although such documents are intended to take effect when serious illness clouds judgment, bioethicists such as the Washington University professor Rebecca Dresser have compellingly written that people’s goals may genuinely change when they confront a lessened quality of life and their potential death. As a result, she argues, a patient’s “experiential interests” at this later time should take precedence over the earlier wishes.

In my father’s case, however, I simply could not throw his previously stated wishes out the window. Ultimately, my mother, sister and I concluded that it was impossible to advocate such specific choices so fervently in one’s lifetime without their being a part of one’s permanent makeup — even if they could no longer be articulated. I realized that other families, in similar situations, might choose the opposite strategy…

Barron H. Lerner, a professor of medicine and population health at the New York University School of Medicine, is the author, most recently, of “The Good Doctor: A Father, a Son, and the Evolution of Medical Ethics.”

Having decision makers discuss a calm and reasoned plan for possible outcomes greatly helps improve end of life experiences and memories for the extended family.

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Don’t miss another opportunity to record the priceless memories of your loved ones. https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/dont-miss-another-opportunity-to-record-the-priceless-memories-of-your-loved-ones/ Wed, 27 May 2015 03:21:30 +0000 http://heartfelt.706directory.com/?p=3168 Here are 8 of dozens of unique ways we suggest to share and video the priceless family stories, history and personalities at your next family gathering or visit: If you don’t record it, you, your extended family and future generations will long regret it.  Think of the treasured meaningful video recordings that you don’t have because someone didn’t […]

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Here are 8 of dozens of unique ways we suggest to share and video the priceless family stories, history and personalities at your next family gathering or visit:

If you don’t record it, you, your extended family and future generations will long regret it.  Think of the treasured meaningful video recordings that you don’t have because someone didn’t take the initiative make it happen or an elder didn’t think anyone cared what he had to share, or that the activity wasn’t worth recording.
 
There are millions of people searching for snippets of their family history through websites like Ancestry.com  You hold the key to the questions that current and future generations want to know about those who are still around to share their memories, skill and advice.

♦ Grandma reads to future and perhaps current children in the extended family.
   Using books from previous generations makes it more meaningful. Read books for a variety of age levels.

♦ Grandma teaches the meaning of special words and phrases from her heritage to strengthen the ethnic identity of the grandchildren.

♦ Grandpa demonstrates how he makes his famous pot roast, or any other thing family might periodically do his way to remember him.

♦ Grandpa does a show and tell with the items in his tool box and shows how to use his tools that the grandchildren will inherit one day.

♦ You show the Ellis Island documents and heirlooms you inherited from your elders.

♦ People tell about shared adventures and fond memories in groupings. 

♦ An extended family talent show, at a reunion, is fun and showcases traditional, fun and strange talents.
  The Johnson family sings, niece Emily plays the violin, Cousin Mike shows how to do some magic tricks, brother Sid shows how he makes paper hats and shadow puppets and you do the tap dance you learned as a child.

♦ Everyone participates to remember and fill in the missing parts of a large family tree. People bring their documents and family pictures to fill in the details.

♦ Individuals or groups sit around a table and share the back-stories of old family pictures they brought to share and 
   learn about. (who, what, when where, how and what was happing before and after the picture was taken)

♦ Downsizing – Show and tell about your memorabilia and collectables that you need to get rid of, as you downsize in preparation to 
   move to a smaller place.

♦ Be interviewed by a loved one to create an in-depth video memoir.  See our detailed list of questions to get started.

♦ Share or read your personal wisdom and advice.  “This, I believe…”
   For inspiration read and listen to some of the thousands of  “This I Believe” essays recorded by everyday Americans.     
  www.ThisIBelieve.org

Heartfelt Memorial Services: Your Guide for Planning Meaningful Funerals, Celebrations of Life and Times of Remembrance
Co-Authors, Educators and Officiants Dave Savage and Beverly Molander   Atlanta, Georgia  USA
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Resources, Ideas and Materials to help make important decisions and create meaningful family activities before, during and after a death on the family.

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Another way to fill a nostalgia table at the memorial service https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/another-way-to-fill-a-nostalgia-table-at-the-memorial-service/ Wed, 27 May 2015 02:55:27 +0000 http://heartfelt.706directory.com/?p=3166 Putting nostalgia items on display is something that many families do to share interests of their loved one. In addition to that, have an empty table at the front of the room, when the service begins. In a processional of family entering the room, some of them carry an item that is important to them. […]

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Putting nostalgia items on display is something that many families do to share interests of their loved one. In addition to that, have an empty table at the front of the room, when the service begins. In a processional of family entering the room, some of them carry an item that is important to them. Before sitting down, each person, who carries an item, places it on the table and then goes to the microphone to share on what it is and its significance to them. “These candle sticks represent the wonderful family dinners we had at grandmas table” “This is the toy car that grandpa made for my 3rd birthday”

Doing this allows for an expanded list of items to display. Close friends can also participate by sharing an item important to them or about the loved one. They may also act as proxy for a family member in the room or one who could not attend. ” I’m John, Peter’s next door neighbor. His cousin Alice could not be here today. These are the world’s fair ticket stubs that represent a great adventure they had together”   If there is an open microphone at the reception, for additional sharing, friends can also do a short “show and tell” of an item that connects them to their friend.

For more ideas, get a copy of Heartfelt Memorial Services: Your Guide for Planning Meaningful Funerals, Celebrations of Life and Times of Remembrance.

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Saving DNA before burial or cremation https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/saving-dna-before-burial-or-cremation/ Wed, 27 May 2015 02:48:10 +0000 http://heartfelt.706directory.com/?p=3164 I hope you’ll explore saving some of your and your loved one’s DNA. This service allows you to preserve a record of the valuable information DNA offers in relation to the medical history and genealogy of your loved one, with unrealized potential as further technological advances continue to be made. DNA is a household mainstream […]

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I hope you’ll explore saving some of your and your loved one’s DNA.
This service allows you to preserve a record of the valuable information DNA offers in relation to the medical history and genealogy of your loved one, with unrealized potential as further technological advances continue to be made.

DNA is a household mainstream topic which people hear and see every day. Saving a person’s DNA has many advantages and the death care industry is the logical place for this service to be offered. No one likes to think about a loved one passing away. Therefore in the vast majority of cases no one has even thought about saving their family’s DNA.

Funeral homes are the last chance and logical choice to save and preserve this important information. In the past, genetic testing was very expensive and genetic material had to be stored under extreme conditions to prevent degradation. With advances in technology, DNA can now be stored virtually anywhere in a dried form, resembling a fine white powder. This makes it possible to store the DNA in keepsakes and puts the information in the family’s hands: nobody else will have access to the information that the DNA holds. When a person wants to investigate the DNA further, the cost of genetic testing has gone from thousands of dollars to hundreds and in some cases tens of dollars, provided the sample is properly preserved, clean and ready to go.

Full cremation results in complete destruction of the person’s genetic material. By collecting this DNA you are offering the family ways to trace possible genetic disorders, which can save lives.

Also, having access to their family member’s genetic make-up will help families understand who they are and possibly trace their ancestry, allowing them to get a sense of purpose or belonging. Finally, many will find it very meaningful to have their loved one’s DNA close to their heart in a pendant or other memento.

By saving a person’s DNA it preserves everything about that person. It immortalizes them by saving their blueprint and everything that made them unique. Not everyone can build a pyramid or monument to last the test of time but everyone can cheat death a little and leave a lasting legacy by saving their genetic code. There may be truly life after death when you save you’re your DNA.

DNA saving and analyzing services obviously vary by location and the medical and funeral organizations in your area. Learn more on the internet.

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How to ship some of Dad’s cremated remains to the fireworks factory. https://heartfeltmemorialservices.com/how-to-ship-some-of-dads-cremated-remains-to-the-fireworks-factory/ Wed, 27 May 2015 02:22:31 +0000 http://heartfelt.706directory.com/?p=3162 As you might know, there are many kinds of services that will make or do things with cremated remains to help you honor and remember your loved one in unusual ways. Or it just may be time to take the plastic box of grandma’s remains and send them to one or more family members to have […]

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As you might know, there are many kinds of services that will make or do things with cremated remains to help you honor and remember your loved one in unusual ways. Or it just may be time to take the plastic box of grandma’s remains and send them to one or more family members to have a remembrance ceremony in their own way.  In many cases, you may want or need to ship them to others.

The U.S. Post Office is the only legal method of shipping cremated remains domestically or internationally? FedEx won’t do it, nor will the United Parcel Service. The USPS Priority Mail Express® Service will send the ashes of a person or a pet where they need to go.

Before you go to the Post Office:

  1. You’ll need to pack the remains in two containers – an inner container and an outer container (i.e. a box) with padding between the two.
  2. The inner container must be strong and durable. It must

be properly sealed so that it is siftproof. A siftproof container prevents loose powder from leaking or sifting out during transit.

  1. While not a requirement, it’s recommended that the inner container be placed in a sealed plastic bag.
  2. For international shipments, the inner container must be a funeral urn.
  3. Use padding around the inner container, such as bubble wrap or foam peanuts, to prevent breakage during transportation.
  4. The outer container is a cardboard shipping box. You might want to line it with plastic, just in case there’s leakage from the inner container.
  5. Make sure there is no movement of the contents within the shipping box.
  6. Before closing and sealing the shipping box, place a slip of paper with both the sender’s and addressee’s address and contact information inside the box. That way, if the label on the outside is obscured, postal employees can still find out where it’s to go by looking inside the box.
  7. Clearly identify the contents as cremated remains! The post office provides a handy free label to put on the outer container.
  8. Ship the box via Priority Mail Express Service.

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